We Need a New Way to Work With Pain

We Need a New Way to Work With Pain

The first time I remember being deeply depressed was when I was 17 and went away to college.  Every time my mom would call me I would dissolve into tears.  I didn’t know exactly why I was sad.  I knew I didn’t want to be there and that I didn’t feel in control of my life.  Adult me knows now that I had just removed myself far enough away from the culture of my family to begin to start separating out what was me and what was them.  Another big piece was that I had just stopped drinking.  Taking alcohol out of the equation was allowing me to feel my feelings and they were leaking out everywhere. I drank heavily as a teenage girl to numb out and then decided drinking was for unevolved people when I got to college...a pretty lonely position to take as a freshman.  So, what do you do with a sad girl when you don’t know how to help her?  Therapy and anti-depressants, right? 


I said no. 


I knew that wasn’t the answer.  I knew there was something behind my feelings that was real and true.  The secret to myself.  All the healing I ever needed if I could just start to untangle the knots around my heart.  And so, I began the search to deeply know and understand Me. 


Over the past 25 years, I have tried almost everything-psychedelics, Buddhist meditation, yoga, hypnosis, past life regression, acupuncture, Reiki, herbal medicine, soul retrievals, shamanic drum journeys, sound healing, astrology, psychic readings, Akashic records, bio field tuning, crystal bed therapy, EFT, plant medicine, ecstatic dance, crystal healing, therapeutic massage, traditional therapy, Hakomi therapy, and books and books and books!  I threw the kitchen sink at my healing.  I followed my curiosity.  I followed my intuition.  I kept all three eyes open-always looking, always searching for the next thing that might shift things a little bit more. 


I didn’t do this in a feverish way or make it a second job.  I did it with the intention of finding peace in my spirt and in my heart, more joy and more freedom.  That is my one true driver of all the things that I do. 


And what I found after years of devoted investigation of self and seven years of clinical practice is that the evolutionary superpower of understanding our emotions appears to have been missed.  Identifying, owning and validating your emotional experience is essential to your healing.  Being in denial and dismissive to our emotional truth is a self-betrayal that creates even greater pain.  Nothing changes when you deny your history or your trauma, whether it is little t trauma or big T trauma. 

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WORTHY: Conscious Conversations About Money

I love talking about money.  I had to do so much work around my self worth and what I thought about people who had money and what you had to do to make money.  I'm talking to Anastasia about how I got into tens of thousands of dollars of debt TWICE and how I got out of it.  I'm talking about how I started my practice and and how I took the leap from the day job to working for myself.  Here's what Anastasia had to say about our interview: 

"One of the best things about doing this series is that every few interviews or so, I walk away feeling like I just made a new friend. 

The best interviews are the ones that I forget I'm interviewing because I'm having such a good time. 

That's how I felt with Erin Telford.

I feel so grateful to have found her. 

She is so full of wisdom, so kind and funny, and so so good at what she does. 

Erin is an acupuncturist, Reiki Master, Breathwork facilitator/teacher and herbalist and ever since our time together I have used her breathwork video on YouTube almost every other night. It's crazy powerful. And Erin's voice and energy is so healing. 

I highly recommend it! 

We cover a ton in our interview. Going into debt, getting out of debt, and going back into it and out of it again. A powerful exercise Erin used to expand her capacity to receive. How prioritizing rest, relaxation, beauty, and down time actually brings her more business, not less.  How she kept going with her business, even when she had nothing in the bank and was full of anxiety and terror, and much much more.

I'll say it again. Erin is crazy special. I love her. And I know you will too."

~ Anastasia Holland

Healers Podcast Interview w/Elizabeth Dehn

"We all need healing, whether from a broken heart or a chronic health condition. Join self-help obsessed writer and founder of BeautyBets.com, Elizabeth Dehn, on a weekly spirit journey with the teachers and gurus who are transforming lives in unconventional ways. These modern-day healers will change the way you view the universe—and your ability to heal yourself.

You feel like you have it all together on paper—the job, the home, the friends. But something still feels like it’s missing. You think it must be possible to feel better than this, more joyful and energized, less anxious and uncertain—but you don’t know how. Fashion publicist turned NYC breathworker Erin Telford of has been there, done that and is here to help us uncover what’s missing on a soul level. She’ll also walk us through a breath exercise that you can do at home whenever you need grounding."

~ Elizabeth Dehn of BeautyBets.com