So Here's The Good News

So Here's The Good News

The last 13 days since the inauguration has felt like five years.  I’ve been rabidly glued to my news feeds wondering what this man is going to do next.

 

So, here’s the good news.  And you can take this or leave this.  I am consciously choosing to look at this experience as a global healing event.  I don’t think this choice is delusional or “being positive.”  I actually think of it as completely realistic.

 

The collective’s dirty laundry is being shoved into the light of day-all of the rage, grief, misogyny, racism, fear, xenophobia, patriarchal conditioning, rape culture, etc.  Everything unsavory is now in a steaming pile in the middle of the room for all to witness.  This is the collective shadow aka the dark, distasteful, hidden side. 

 

We all have our own shadow side-the parts of us that we have decided are “bad.”  The parts of us that are jealous, afraid, angry, wounded, sad, lonely, ashamed.  As a person, you make up part of the collective shadow.  Every icky thing we are seeing outside of us right now reflects the sum total of billions of people’s long standing internal pain and suffering projected onto the world stage. 

 

You can’t heal a wound that you can’t see.  The collective had to get to a tipping point that forces us to act.  We finally have a true opportunity to do let old structures fall away and create new ones that reflect our humanity and love. 

 

In the midst of these wacky times, I have never felt more purposeful or alive.  I see the most engaged, turned on, three eyes open, brilliant, tender, compassionate cavalry charging together and bringing support and all their full open hearts. It is a joy to see during the chaos. When your world gets turned upside down, you get to see what you are made of and we are made of some pretty amazing stuff.

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Make Your New Year Great Again (<--I couldn't resist)

Make Your New Year Great Again (<--I couldn't resist)

I did a Death Meditation Wednesday night with the dark of the Moon.  I lit some candles and spent some time being led through the last twelve hours of my life.  I wrote down all my regrets, all the things I wished I’d said to people, what’s holding me back, what I’m imprisoned by, the lies I tell myself, what needs to die, my last words to my loved ones, and what matters to me. 

 

Heavy, yes.  Intense, yes.  Cried buckets, yes. 

 

Just what I needed…absolutely.  I allowed that death energy to move through me and my life to clear the debris and the old patterning and all the places I was still stuck.  You let things die for new things to have space to come in.

 

We are closing out a nine-year cycle with the ending of 2016.  This was a year of completion and loose ends and closure.  That’s why it’s been pushing you so much.  When life is asking you to wrap something up and you continue to fight it, it’s going to feel pretty bad.  Life lessons come at you with a whisper and a feather touch and they amp up to a shout and a hammer if you’re on your tenth opportunity to learn it. 

 

Next year is a One Year in numerology.  A One is a new beginning and a clean slate.  There is a lot of magic available with a new year because we have a collective agreement that this is a fresh start. 

 

We know that when the page turns over to 2017 that we’ll have a cosmic do over.  But how your year goes is up to you.  It’s also up to the Universe but your job is meeting it half way with inspired action.  Your world only changes when you change.  When you change your boundaries, your relationship with yourself, the way you relate to other people, how much space you allow yourself to take in the world, how much you can receive.

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Modern Family: A High Vibe Holiday Survival Guide

Modern Family:  A High Vibe Holiday Survival Guide

“If you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.” – Ram Dass

Nothing is truer than this statement, since THIS is the real spiritual work. Take it off the mat, take it out of the personal development book, take it off the cushion – family time means time to walk the talk.

If you are mentally steeling yourself for holiday family time this year, know that you are not alone. We always revert to children when we go home, no matter our actual age. And this inner child will always re-experience the same unmet needs for attention, affection, allowing, acceptance or appreciation.

This inner child may even be coming into a family gathering with an expectation of feeling old hurt. This child may unconsciously be watching and waiting for familiar signs that he or she is inadequate, unwanted, or less than.

And if these wounds haven’t been addressed and healed, even if there isn’t an overtly toxic situation to navigate there will always be people present that push these buttons.

The trigger might be a casual remark about your job or relationship status, your parenting style or appearance. The deeper the wound, the more power these off hand comments can have to throw you off your game, creating a spiral of anger and insecurity. Happy holidays!

And we’re talking deep, subconscious stuff, the kind of stuff it’s hard to see coming. One minute you’re “fine,” the next, an insecure little girl who wants to lash out teenage rebel style – or else go hide in her room.

With this in mine, here are a few tips to keep in your back pocket while you navigate…

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