I woke up at 5am this morning and couldn’t get back to sleep. I tried all of my normal get-back-to-sleep tricks and they weren’t working. My body does this sometimes when I have mountains of work to do and this is one of those weeks.
So I’m feeling a little draggy, a little tight and achy in the back, a little sludgy. It’s really cold outside. I could easily declare this day a wash before I even get started.
This is human nature. You begin your day tired or with a snippy conversation, a questionably unintentional shoulder check on the subway, a cab that almost sideswipes you, a bored/rude/unengaged interaction with any number of people you are buying things from. And here is where our choice to shape our day happens.
Do we allow the one crappy thing to ruin our day and set us off on a course of negative evidence gathering? Or do we make a different choice? Negative evidence gathering is where we make a choice to only see the bad in people and experiences. We are already irritated or upset and we project our mood onto the world. It’s like looking through angry-colored glasses.
We move through the day collecting slights and annoyances with triumph-“Yeah! People are so rude! No one knows how to drive! See, everyone here is unhappy!” You can always find A LOT of people who will delightfully participate in this with you.
Here’s the deal. It’s a choice. And you can go the other way.
I stumbled upon a website yesterday called 100HappyDays (http://100happydays.com) and I’m all over it. This is NOT about trying to be happy all day every day for 100 days. It’s about finding one moment every day that brings you joy and sharing it with others.
It’s a gratitude practice. It’s a life affirmation. It’s saying yes to life even though.
Even though it doesn’t feel like spring, even though you are exhausted, even though you are scared, even thought you are sick, even though you can’t bear to go to your job for one more day, even though you are yearning fiercely for your life partner.
It’s up to us to choose every day how we live. Can we positive evidence gather? Can we observe the kindness that is all around us?
Can we BE that kindness? I know that might sound terribly hokey and kumbayah and all that but try it. I do it and it’s kind of astounding how nice people are to you when you are nice to them.
One of the reasons that I do the work that I do is that I love to see how relaxed and at peace people look after a session. The first timers have this amazing expression of curiosity and mild confusion like “I can feel like THIS???” Energy work stretches the confines of how we get to experience our bodies and it can feel like sweet relief to know it gets better.
I see this sweetness and peace in people and I know that they take that back out into the world and pay it forward to the bodega guy, the cab driver, their friends, their co-workers, their pets, their loved ones. Healthy, happy people create kind communities and while that may be a grand vision, it’s part of mine.
If you’d like to see what brings me joy for the next 100 days, you can follow me on Instagram @radianthearthealing (http://instagram.com/radianthearthealing) . My personal hashtag for this practice is #100RadiantDays.
I invite you to join me in this challenge any way you like! (http://100happydays.com) Post your photos on any form of social media, send me your photos, send me your words, tell me how and where you are finding joy. Or just quietly participate by taking note of one thing (just one thing!) that makes you smile or feel at peace in the world every day.
Hold it close to your heart.
Lots of love.