Is Your Identity On Straight?

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I received an email yesterday from Maha Rose, the healing space that is hosting my Breathwork circle this Friday night.  They described my healing circles as “passionate.”  This totally cracked me up and put a huge smile on my face. 

To me, this word passionate was a win.  I’ve often been referred to in my life as “intense.”  And while intense doesn’t necessarily have a bad connotation, it was often used in a way that communicated that I was too much, too loud, too opinionated, and probably making that person uncomfortable. 

Passionate feels like I’ve made it to the other side of intense and that feels really good.  I have shrunk in the face of feeling like too much.  I’ve silenced myself, played small, and not spoken up. 

I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this.  Most people fall into one of two categories-both are tricky muzzles on our greatest qualities, gifts, and creativity.  You will either feel like you are too much and keep quiet or feel like you are not worthy/not enough and keep quiet. 

Either option can feel like a silent, slow death of self.  Dramatic statement?  Yes.  Can you relate?  I bet you can. 

Many of us have a story we tell ourselves that creates our identity.  We may have been telling this story for so long that we haven’t even realized that it isn’t true anymore.  We may have different labels or personas that we wear as social armor.  We may feel like we are “putting on a show” at work or with our family or friends and it’s exhausting!  None of us are alone or the only one who doesn’t have it all together even if it feels that way sometimes.  Our essential self is only love. 

We all receive messaging from early childhood on about what behaviors will receive attention and love.  These messages are oh so subtle but they can shape our self-concept and the role that we will play in our family and later on in our friendships, romantic relationships and at work.  Are you the Peacemaker?  The Smart One?  The Funny One?  The Entertainer?  The Pretty One?  The Strong One? 

“In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring each other that our costumes of identity are on straight.”

~ Ram Dass

So what happens when the Peacemaker is tired of running interference?  What happens when the Strong One needs to break down?  What happens when the Funny One just wants to relax?  The tricky part is that these labels can prevent us from growth, intimacy and authenticity.

How can we live and generate the truth of who we are becoming on a day-by-day basis if we are locked into these outdated generalizations about our personality and capacity?  We are rich beings, so full of life and nuance. We are ever changing and evolving as responsive creatures within our incredible dynamic world.

When we consciously choose to dismantle the identities that we have co-created, we will receive push back but freedom is on the other side.  The New Moon in Scorpio is going to fully support you in rising from the ashes (yes, AGAIN) in your fullest expression. 

If you’d like to join me for Breathwork in Brooklyn, it’s going to be passionate and fun.  Come ready to shake off an outdated version of yourself!  If you are not in New York and you want in, email me and we can figure out how to Skype you into the group!

Maha Rose-97 Green Street, #G3, Brooklyn, NY

Friday, October 24th from 7:30-9:30pm (#healingisthenewnightlife)

$30 pre-register/ $35 day of

Link to pre-register is HERE